Sunday, January 15, 2012

what discourages me from blogging

I have taken a couple of months off of intense blogging and now that I come back to it, I find that the biggest reason I can't motivate myself to blog is that I feel like I have missed out on so much.

Sure, I have missed reading blogs and commenting and having a relationship with others in the blogosphere. But what really intimidates me like no tomorrow is the vast array of talent that is out there. Talent in making your blog look like a million bucks. The newest most amazing fonts, with fun backgrounds, professional photos, and the list goes on. The pretty sponsor ads are also intimidating because I see how many awesome people are out there that I internally am competing with.

I keep asking myself why it bothers me so much. Why do I let competition with blogging get to me? I don't allow competition to be a major force in my life anywhere else? It is really quite odd.

I used to be able to write without a care. Okay maybe that isn't true. I did care about what I was writing but it seems that now I overly care and am always wondering, "no that is boring. who wants to read about that?" Truth is that the topic could be something really rad and I just won't write about it because I don't have fun pictures to show with gorgeous matching font and wit.

Perhaps what I am feeling is a bit silly? I assure you these feelings are real. I had a super fun photo for this post and of course I can't get it to work. I need computer lessons. I need confidence in blogging lessons. I need...to get a life.

24 thoughts:

aPearantly sew said...

Oh Gina, you are SO not alone in this. I rarely blog anymore, and it's for the same reasons. I write a post and then think...who wants to read that? (delete post)
It's been kind of nice in a way to take a little break from it all and refocus. I've been thinking a lot lately about why I blog & have a shop...and if it's something I even want to continue.

Lauren Bird said...

You just got to do it for you lady. If you aren't feeling it then nothing says you have to. I always enjoy reading what you have to say. Sometimes comparison can get so tough and overwhelming. It is so hard to get over. Lately I've been really enjoying it, but I go in waves of enjoying it and going through the motions.

Ordyandjoon said...

i feel the same way... i hate posting bc i feel like i'll let people down!

Gina Dixon {Hiya Luv} said...

I know exactly what you mean! I often feel that I just won't post because it may be too similar to something else or won't be up to par...it is such a bummer because I really used to love blogging and never cared (too much) about what others thought...now it just seems like a popularity contest and I am so turned off by that. :(

I would love to read about your wedding plans:)

Gina Dixon {Hiya Luv} said...

Thanks Lauren,
I knew you would understand. I am just so down and out...

Mo *OhDarlingBride* said...

Hi Gina,

I went through that same horrible feeling last year. I was looking at other people's blogs and feeling inadequate. You're right, sometimes it does feel like a competition to be the best blog on the block!

Somehow I managed to push through it. I think it helps to focus on compliments from readers and support from other bloggers. I also tried to stop comparing my blog to other blogs out there. It's hard cause like you, I always want to improve my blog, but I had to put it into perspective.

I hope you start feeling better about blogging. If it helps, I loved how you just opened up and said what's on your heart. It's so refreshing.
Happy blogging :)

Gina {Hiya Luv} said...

Thank you so much for your comment. I just love your blog! I hope that I start feeling better about blogging also...I do get in these ruts from time to time; i think it is natural when you are putting stuff out there for others to read. Really I need to concentrate on writing for me which is one of the main reasons I started blogging in the first place. :)

Steph @ Crafting in the Rain said...

It's so hard when you lose motivation for something you like, huh! I have to remind myself sometimes that I'm really blogging just for me--I like doing it, I like getting a comment now and then saying someone really liked something I made--but as hard as it is sometimes, I have to remember that blogging is not life :)

Ms. Megan said...

I know just how you feel dear!!
I have found that I love blogging ever-so much more when I think about it as my journal.
I have high hopes of printing my blog into a book so that I can one day share it with my kids like a diary//journal about what was on my mind, what I liked, how my days were + what I wore.
I try not to blog about what others would like to read but more about what I would like to remember about my life.
PS I love that photo!! Plus your blog header!!
I hope you have a lovely day dear!!
xoxo

Gina Dixon {Hiya Luv} said...

Thanks for your kind words Megan! I love the idea of treating my blog like a journal. :)gina

Ashley Ray said...

You know what? There are some people who write really engaging & interesting blog posts and I just don't get into them because of their viewpoint or personality, or whatever. And there are some people who could talk about the boring details of their grocery trip and I would be riveted. Because I like that person, care about what happens in their life and because I identify with them. I shop for groceries, too.

You are the latter person for me. You write whatever you feel like and I'm going to read it and be interested. And . . . pretty, blinged out blogs will not draw people to truly engage with you. Connection is what causes that to happen (even over stuff that isn't super deep), and you can encourage that with a plain background & no images.

Ashley Ray said...

I should also say that I feel those same frustrations & fears. My blog is so not up-to-par in terms of look. But I write stuff and people have begun commenting, and I'm happy with that.

Gina Dixon {Hiya Luv} said...

Ashley,
You are so right on! There are some blogs that are gorgeous but I just can't get into them. Way to put things into perspective! Love ya girl! :)gina

Rae Padulo said...

Here! Out here - I hear you! I think about that all the time. I started my blog in 2009, too, but have MUCH fewer postings - you should be proud of all you've accomplished and covered. I love your blog - please continue - we're listening!

Gina Dixon {Hiya Luv} said...

Dear Rae,
Thanks so much for your amazing comment. You just made my day:)
gina

Lena Leson said...

Oh darling, this is so hard. I think every blogger feels this way, or at least I hope they do. But what makes you special isn't special fonts (and no one else's special fonts make them special either), it's YOU. No one else can be a better version of the Gina we all adore.

PS–DIY bride, Ruffled and Once Wed have some pretty amazing DIY sections. God Speed!

Gina {Hiya Luv} said...

Thank you so much friend. You are the bestest. I miss pen pen-paling. Maybe we can start that up again?:)
gina

Mama Pea said...

Ditto to what Ashley said :)

Lena Leson said...

YES-I love that idea!

WendyB said...

But you can be that way about anything! There are a million other jewelers out there, some of them with a lot more resources than me. If I sat around thinking about them, I'd never be able to do anything for myself. I worry about my own work and let the rest of the world take care of itself.

Yolanda Tuttle-Williams said...

I love reading your blog! I hope you keep with it. I wish I had as many people interested in what I have to say. :) With my blog, I find that I have to censor myself and be careful as to what I write, because there are certain people that pick apart everything I say. Be happy that you have a following, and just keep doing what you do. Miss ya bunches!

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Melissa, SoChick! said...

I heart your blog and you, Gina! But i totally get where you are coming from. I always feel better about myself when I step back, make a plan based on what I want (Whether is from my blog or otherwise) and then DO IT for me... without checking in on the competition. Because, really, I don't feel like I should have to compete with anyone to write what I want. XxOo

Hello Pretty said...

Umm.. I totally understand!! I left my blog for a year & a half & so much in the blogging world has changed. I felt so discouraged & out of my league that I actually deleted my entire blog and started over. My advice: your blog is amazing, just like you, so if you love blogging, keep it up. :)
xo - karrie

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