Saturday, June 12, 2010

new job. new beginnings.

{{This week has been a crazy whirlwind of decisions to be made. }}
Okay, so maybe it was just one decision to be made. But a huge decision to be made. Huge because it requires a lifestyle change. It required more than just choosing to accept a job or not but to choose to move out of my own apartment and in with somebody else! eek:) but yay!
At the beginning of the week I was offered the position of Assistant Director of Residential Life for Student Conduct at Temple University in Philadelphia, PA. It is a fantastic job and a great school to work at and be apart of. I am really excited about this job and the new opportunities that it presents. I love the department that I will be working for and immediately connected with those who I will work with on a regular basis. The position and the fit felt right and after talking things over with Dave, I enthusiastically accepted the job! 
The actual historic Temple on campus
Liacouras Walk, where my new office will be
I will be leaving my current position at the University of Delaware where I have worked for 2 years as a Complex Coordinator and have received housing as part of my compensation package. Now that I will be working at Temple University, I am moving in with Dave and I am getting the jitters!
Laird Campus, University of Delaware
I am not sure why I am so nervous. Perhaps it is because I will be moving into his house and I will no longer have my own place? In some ways I feel like I am losing my independence? But am I? I think that I am making my apartment a symbol of my independence but isn't that foolish? I can still be an independent woman and live with my fiance? I don't know; perhaps I am just nervous about the entire transition...now don't get me wrong-I am really excited about moving in with Dave too or I wouldn't do it! It will be fun to come home to my little family: Dave, Polo, and Gizmo. 
A fun, wintery, festive photo of Dave's house and my soon to be new home!
Alright, tell me, am I being crazy? Are my feelings of vulnerability valid? What is the best way to deal with transitional feelings that come with moving in to the same house together? 
(Side bar: I have done this before-I lived with my ex-but that was on my terms in my place. I think I am so nervous because this is his place and not mine (yet) and I don't feel like I am in control?)
Perhaps I am just rambling...
Polo & Gizmo
My boys <3
Luv & smiles,
gina

17 thoughts:

Kayla said...

I think it's perfectly understandable to have some worries and concerns. It's a big step and without the worries you probably aren't taking the proper precautions and steps necessary to do it successfully. I also think that from what I've read on your blog it seems like a fantastic step and one that will bring tons of joy and heart into your life. Just my thoughts on it!
Oh and I'll be emailing you soon; I have a favor for while I'm on vacation!
Ramblings of a Small Town Girl

Lesli said...

Valid & understandable. Two big life changes! I have been married for 7 years and I still sometimes miss my single girl apartment. It is completely normal! But an exciting change for you and I am sure only good things will come from this! A next step, but a good step!

xoxo

Kristie said...

Alan and I lived together before we got married. It's definitely going to be a change, but you will do great! Congrats on the new job. YAY! Good things are in store for you, I can feel it!

CIARA said...

gorgeous pictures!
good luck :)

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Nina said...

Your message helped me through a very rough patch, Gina ... thank you so much!

Cassie said...

Congratulations on your new job! That sounds wonderful, and the pictures are gorgeous! I didn't live with Jim before we got married, so I can't help you there. He was living with 5 roommates before we married and I was living in the dorms with my roommate, so when we did get married we moved into a new apartment. I imagine you would be nervous. . .seems normal since you consider it 'his'. I suppose as long as he understands that it is now 'yours' and no longer just his, you guys will do great. I'm excited for you, Gina ;D

thischicksgotstyle said...

Congratulations on your job! :)

Le Sigh of a Fashionista said...

YAY! Congrats on your new job! I'm so excited for you.

WendyB said...

I was very nervous moving in with MrB...but once the move took place I was fine. Thinking about it is worse than doing it! Congrats on the job.

Josie said...

First of all, congratulations on your new job, my dear! That is SO exciting. I think that it totally makes sense that you might be a bit nervous about the whole situation but I'm quite sure that things will work out for you. Just be sure to keep communicating and try your best not to lose yourself :)
xo Josie
http://winksmilestyle.blogspot.com

kate funk said...

NO QUESTIONS ASKED, COME TO PHILLY!!!!!!! We can be real life friends not just blogging friends! :) Hope the graduations were fun this weekend!!

kirstyb said...

congratulations on the new job! and moving! live for the moment dont over think things xxxxx

Valerie said...

Congratulations on your new job, Gina! It sounds amazing and the campus is gorgeous. I'd be super happy to go to work there every day. And about moving in with your fiance, I think everyone gets a bit of the jitters when making that move. There's something anxiety inducing about giving up your own space, but I think it's natural and you'll feel better once you move in and establish that his place is now yours too. Good luck and keep us posted!

xo
Valerie

Sweet Harper said...

Oh dear, your feelings are totally normal! It's a lot though on top of a new {congrats!} job too. Also, my hubby and I did move in together before our actual wedding day and I think it was a good thing because the whole wedding, although wonderful, is stressful all on it's own. Keep us posted on all the exciting things you have going on!

Robyn said...

OMG congrats! I have never had a real shared living with a man... I have always kept my own apartment. Clearly I am no help. Chris and I are moving in together when my lease runs out, and I have been slowly dropping hints that I might want to rent an additional office space... that would have a bed, and a bathroom. I am such a child. You will be great in everything you do. XO

Ashley said...

First off, CONGRATS on your new job!! That is sooooo exciting, and so well deserved! I'm so happy for you :D

As for the jitters, you are well within the norm to have them. The BF and I had jitters when we were deciding just to share an apartment for 1 year for our senior year of college. But it really is a great thing, to live with the person you love - just so long as you are sure to stake out some space that is purely yours! Like, I had my little desk area that I used to blog and check emails and keep my mail, and it was only my stuff - idk, I might be weird about this, but I liked knowing that there was 1 little area that was all mine, and not shared. Idk if this is good advice *at all*, but it's just what worked for me! Congrats on the job and on moving in with your fiance!! :D

-Ashley
http://breakfastatsaks.blogspot.com

Amanda said...

You're fine... and you'll do great. I don't blame you for being nervous. I was too. But Dave is a great guy... he'll let you keep your independence ;-)

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